I like The Rock Test, but it's not totally great for my context.
Confession: I don't think about Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson as much as I do about Jesus.
Thus, I'd like to propose that for a certain part of the population, "The Jesus Test" may be a more effective hack to prevent bad choices and encourage good (and godly) behavior.
Setting One: Passing the Peace
Sure, maybe you're a "hugger", but you know the person who has always stiffly held out their hand? That person doesn't want to be hugged. You don't know why. It may be taking all they have to be in the presence of all these other people. It may be that they have an illness where even light touch is painful. They may just not like to be touched. Your identity as a "hugger" doesn't surpass their desire not to be hugged.
Think of this Jesus:
This is when Christ appears to Mary Magdalene in the garden and asks her not to touch him. We don't know if he didn't want it because it would break his resolve to ascend to the Father, because it would be hard for her, or if it would disrupt some other divine part of His work.
Jesus has the right to ask not to be touched and to have that request respected. Look at the person you are approaching. What are their body signals? What do their eyes say? If you know you are a person who is NOT good at reading those things, a handshake is always your best bet. If someone has a hand out, respect that hand. Noli me tangere, Jesus says, "Do not touch me." We listen to that from him and when he says it from within our neighbor.
Pro tip: This applies beyond passing the peace. When someone asks you to withdraw your hand or to step back, additional commentary or pressure is absolutely uncalled for and unnecessary. No means no. It did for Jesus, it does for those whom Jesus loves.
Setting Two: The Inappropriate Story
Are you in Bible study or a group meeting? Are you having a one-to-one with another person? Are you having coffee, drinks, or a snack with a group of 2-3? Are you leading? Are you a participant? Do you have a question you want to ask or a story that you want to tell neither of which is for the full edification of the group?
Is your story because it gets a good laugh or because you like to shock people?
Is your question to show how much you know, rather than to offer information?
Is your goal to disrupt or unseat the person in charge?
Is the purpose of the story or the question to show your power in the group and/or in the community?
Would you tell this story to Jesus? Would you interrupt Jesus to ask the question? Is there a way that you would frame things differently if Jesus were the one in the front of the room or the one listening to you teach?
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I began this blog post on 10/11/17, right after the Harvey Weinstein allegations came out and the "Rock Test" was fresh and viral. However, I never mustered the energy to finish it. Frankly, my dears, I'm tired of having to think of clever ways to say, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
It's not about how you would want someone to treat your mother or daughter. It's not about how you feel about your gay son or your cousin who is trans. It's not about whether you could see your Indian neighbor's face or your Muslim cab driver's family picture. The truth is that you either believe all people to be your equals in the eyes of God or you don't.
And if you don't, if you don't... you won't- even if someone rises from the dead.
If you don't, it's not about things being different in the era in which you were raised.
If you don't, it's not about a boys' club or what was good enough for you or your father or your grandfather.
The fact is that you think that you are better than people around you and that the rules that govern everyone else don't apply to you.
My carefully constructed writing will not convince you that other people are not means to your end of power, perceived control, money, awards, rewards, or advancement.
So, here's the deal. I will not be sad when you lose your job. I will not be sad when your empire collapses. I will not shed a tear if you find yourself without everything that you so carefully built, believing yourself to be invincible.
Someday, when (not if) it happens, I will have tea with you. If you want. I will not be sympathetic to your plight. I will look you in the eye and say, "This was always going to be a totally shit time."
And I will wait to see if you want to make it better or make it right.
I will not offer cheap grace.
That's the true Jesus' test.
And many people are shocked to find themselves failing.