A friend recently expressed frustration that empowering people to take ownership and leadership takes a lot more time than doing something one's self. This is true... in the short term. In the long term, empowerment is the more efficient means of reaching a given destination because empowerment involves honest recognition of one's own limitations, the skills of others, the need for community and relationship, and the reality of having a few more eyes on an issue.
As a person who often makes an idol of efficiency, I confess that I have sometimes let empowerment fall by the wayside. This is not because I lack the skills to empower others, but because I haven't taken the time to offer the opportunity or been willing to let something flounder when others didn't step forward. I have come to realize, through time and experience, that enabling is not actually an efficient path to any destination other than the Land of Resentment, Burnout Island, or Frustration Station.
I like The Rock Test, but it's not totally great for my context.
Confession: I don't think about Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson as much as I do about Jesus.
Thus, I'd like to propose that for a certain part of the population, "The Jesus Test" may be a more effective hack to prevent bad choices and encourage good (and godly) behavior.
Setting One: Passing the Peace Sure, maybe you're a "hugger", but you know the person who has always stiffly held out their hand? That person doesn't want to be hugged. You don't know why. It may be taking all they have to be in the presence of all…
I recently taught myself how to knit, with the help of
videos, books, and a few friends. I ultimately want to make a certain kind of
sweater and I can only find knitting patterns for that sweater. Knitting makes
a different kind of fabric and would open up more projects for me.
order to start knitting, I had to stop crocheting (at least for a little
while). To fully learn and grown in my new skill, I had to set aside other
habits. While there was nothing wrong with crocheting, I can’t crochet and knit
at the same time, so one had to be put down while I took up the other.
It seems that we often try to do two things at the same
time, even though they are mutually exclusive. We harbor longing for change,
but we do not set aside harmful habits or take up helpful ones. We try to fit
complacency and courage into the same space at the same time. We like the idea
of something new, but we don’t want to put the energy or time or thought into
how it might come about.